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I need to decide whether to give up on my marriage or work to save my marriage. I am faced with this decision because my wife cheated on me. I do still care for her and I think she still has feelings for me. This is a difficult decision.

There is little to nothing more devastating to an individual, to a marriage, than experiencing an extra-marital affair. People who live through this commonly feel a profound sense of loss, betrayal and inability to trust. The spouse who had the affair may feel similar feelings along with profound guilt when faced with the thought of losing their spouse as a result of their actions.

Marriage counselors can also sometimes help marital partners find answers inside themselves. While one should not look to excuse a partner's illicit affair or take the blame for that affair on oneself, it may also be true that both partners had a hand in sabotaging the relationship. It can sometimes be important to look at the relationship before the unfaithful behavior to discover how it ended up where it did.

"I believe our marriage can survive this. I've decided that in order to save my marriage, I'm just going to suck it up and drive on." "She's a good woman. I will deal with the boredom because I just want to save my marriage." Merely repressing your feelings about your spouse's affair, being content with the cards you've been dealt, is not necessarily saving your marriage. Empty promises of fidelity, faking satisfaction is also probably not the most effective way to deal with what has occurred.

A common erroneous assumption is that love and satisfaction of basic needs are sufficient to maintain a marriage. Maintaining any marriage, even one that appears to be happy, requires serious work. Non-verbal and face-to-face communication are important determinants of success in a marriage. A therapist with a specialty in marriage counseling is a good resource to consider if a couple finds that maintaining open and healthy communication is too difficult.

You might be in a situation where your spouse does not wish to attend therapy. This should not dissuade you from trying it out. A quality professional can deal with your deeper issues and make you mentally healthier. Such improvement will decrease the likelihood of small arguments in the household, which is a great first step toward dealing with couples issues.

With divorce rates on the rise, more people are asking themselves, "How do I save my marriage?" There are many resources and options available to those who want to know how to save marriage. First of all, both parties must be willing to compromise and negotiate with one another. Marriage counseling can also help couples to resolve their differences. Saving a marriage benefits not only the couple, but also their children, who otherwise might be caught in the middle of an unfortunate battle between their parents. Recall the commitment you once made to your spouse, and you will often be able to save your marriage.